Posts Tagged ‘family’

Helpful Websites for Co-Parenting.

Posted on: January 10th, 2013 by Scott Law

We commonly rely on the internet for work, school, entertainment, and to keep in touch with friends and family.  When going through a divorce in Arizona or a child custody case, why not look to the internet to assist in co-parenting with your Ex?  There are many sites that provide tools for parents to assist with the sometimes difficult task of co-parenting.  Many of these sites also provide tools for divorce attorneys and custody attorneys to review communication and interact with the family.  Some of the tools available to parents on websites for co-parenting are:

  1. A shared calendar to coordinate any parenting time schedule or child visitation schedule.
  2. The ability to request changes to a parenting time or visitation schedule or to request a day swap.
  3. An expense log to keep accurate records and to allow for prompt payment of shared expenses.
  4. Stored information banks to keep up to date contact information on the child’s doctors, teachers, extracurricular activity providers, emergency contacts and to ensure that both parties have easy access to accurate immunization and health records for the child.
  5. Message boards for effective communication between parents and other family members.

At Scott Law Offices, we believe that communication is key.  These internet resources may provide many parents of divorce with a more simple, effective and low-conflict way of co-parenting.  Here are a few of the sites:


For more information on Divorce, Custody or Visitation in Arizona, contact Scott Law Offices for your free consultation with a Phoenix Divorce Attorney.

Parenting Time and the Holiday Season

Posted on: December 6th, 2012 by Scott Law

Scott Law Offices is focused on family.  The holiday season is all about family.  Holidays can bring a certain amount of stress for many people.  When two people share child custody in Arizona, that holiday stress is often magnified.  Avoiding child custody and parenting time issues during the holidays can reduce stress for all involved.  By doing so, the children can enjoy a great holiday experience with both parents.  Here are some things to consider:

Check Your Paperwork

Your court orders for child custody and parenting time are binding.  Oftentimes there are specific orders regarding holiday parenting time set forth in your parenting time orders.  Stick to this schedule unless and until the orders are formally changed.  Most parenting time arrangements can be modified so long as the parties have a mutual agreement in writing.  Before making any modification to the parenting time schedule, be sure to follow the procedures for modifications set forth in your court orders.


Be sure to check your custody orders for limitations on travel.  It is often the case that advanced notice must be given to the other parent prior to traveling out of State with the children.  Sometimes permission must be obtained from the other parent to allow the children to travel out of State.  Plan ahead and give sufficient time for any necessary discussions related to travel.  Also, you may want to consider allowing some form of video chatting between the children and the other parent while you are travelling.  This may ease any stress that the children and the other parent may feel from being away from each other during the holidays.

Trade Time

If you find that you need to keep the children for extra time over the holidays or hope to have the children on a day that is not designated to you in your custody orders, consider trading time.  You could offer the other parent extra days at any time during the year or possibly offer them a holiday that would normally fall during your parenting time.  Flexibility is important in any co-parenting situation.

Be Nice

Though it may be difficult, try to be nice.  A little bit of compassion and tolerance can go a long way.  This can alleviate stress not only for you and the other parent, but for your children.  Communication is often the key to avoiding difficult holiday disputes.  Having effective communication and playing nicely with the other parent will set a good example for your children and may help them to have a happy holiday.

If you have questions about your parenting time schedule or child custody orders do not wait until last-minute.  Avoid the stress of last-minute holiday disputes by addressing potential holiday parenting time issues well in advance of the holidays and court closures.  Contact a Scott Law Offices custody attorney for your free consultation.

The Effect of Divorce on Children

Posted on: June 19th, 2012 by Scott Law

Divorce is obviously difficult for the divorcing parties, but the children of divorce often suffer in their own way.  Young children thrive in stable, predictable environments.  During and after a divorce, their environment is often far from stable and predictable.  One household is divided into two, new surroundings and new relationships are often introduced, and the children are no longer with both parents on a daily basis.  The children may feel frightened, confused, stressed and may experience separation anxiety.  It is important for the parents to make their children feel secure both during and after the divorce proceedings.

It may help for parents to try to adhere to daily routines for the children.  Normal morning and bedtime routines can help a child feel safe and secure in both households.  Continuing with their regular extracurricular activities as much as possible can also provide stability.  When one or both parents move to a new neighborhood, parents should encourage the children to make friends in the neighborhood so that they feel more at home.  Also, having a specific toy, blanket, pillow or other personal item that regularly travels between the parents homes may also provide a source of comfort.

While it is important to answer a child’s question honestly, it is also imperative to speak about the other parent in a positive way and avoid discussing court proceedings.  One should never argue with the other parent in front of the children and should make attempts to encourage the children to have a strong relationship with both parents.  Avoid using the children as messengers between the parents.   Never make the children feel guilty about enjoying the time they spend with the other parent.

Each family is different and every child has unique needs.  It is important to discover what works for your family and your children during and after divorce.  Always listen to the children’s concerns, let them express their feelings and, if necessary, seek the assistance of a counselor to assist them both during and after the divorce.